What Are Healthy Boundaries?
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“A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . . The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is, of course, to protect and take good care of you”
In general, “Healthy boundaries are those boundaries that are set to make sure mentally and emotionally you are stable” Another way to think about it is that “Our boundaries might be rigid, loose, somewhere in between, or even nonexistent. A complete lack of boundaries may indicate that we don’t have a strong identity or are enmeshed with someone else”
Setting boundaries is actually a good thing, it teaches people how we want to be loved, and how we want to be treated. If YOU aren’t setting boundaries I can guarantee you find yourself feeling somewhat unstable and powerless in your relationships. If you fear “speaking up” and stating a boundary because you may lose someone, then you have to ask yourself … does this person really actually belong in my life?
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In other words, a lack of healthy boundaries can negatively affect all aspects of someone’s life.
But unlike more intuitive aspects of self-care like healthy eating and exercise, setting healthy boundaries isn’t something most people understand. For more people to experience greater well-being and fulfillment, they must learn about healthy boundaries.
DO YOU IGNORE YOUR INNER VOICE??
Practice tuning in to your inner sense of yes and no.
Tapping into that inner feeling and intuition.
Your feelings and thoughts in the moment will guide you
Learn how to tolerate the reactions of others to your boundaries.
"Boundary setting will unleash emotions," “When you listen to your own yes and no," other people may get angry or disappointed. The reality is that whenever you set boundaries with people, they may not have a pleasant reaction.
The people you want to surround yourself with are those who will respect your boundaries, even if they initially feel upset or disappointed.
We have to teach people how to treat us, and if they can’t respect your boundaries then it is a clear sign to limit or end the relationship. No matter who it is.
The BIG ONE.
Engage in acts of compassionate self-care.
Setting Healthy Boundaries is an essential act of self love.
You may have heard the popular saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” If you want to be giving and compassionate toward others, it is critical that you apply the same compassion toward yourself.
You deserve to treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you give to others. Set aside some weekly time for acts of self-care, which can help you relax, recharge, and connect with yourself. We all have different things that feel relaxing and pleasurable for us; pick what works best for you.
The Importance of Setting Boundaries
Setting boundaries can be difficult, but is such an important part of having healthy relationships and establishing an overall sense of well-being. It’s helpful to remember that when you say “no” to things, it frees up your time to focus on the pursuits that truly energize and excite you. Having good boundaries also enables you to experience less stress and to follow your life’s passion and purpose.
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